Wednesday, May 28, 2008


Many things are done anonymously, but why? Why is it that people wouldn't want recognition for the things they've done. In a society that is so me-me-me it seems almost preposterous that anyone wouldn't want to take credit for the good deed they've done.

Yet there are people out there who are selfless, who want only the deed to shine and not their actions to be center stage. These people amaze me. I have done good deeds anonymously before, I try to do a good deed on the down-low as often as I can. I want the benefactor of the deed to be blessed by whatever it is being done and not focus on thanking me.

Very rarely are Mr. Sparky and I on the receiving end of an anonymous deed. And that's ok, that's not what this post is about. This post is about being loved by someone so much that they don't want the credit for whatever it is they've done, they only want us to be blessed by it.

For instance, last night we received a letter from someone we know. Before I opened the letter I knew what was inside and with anticipation and a little fear opened it up. I read the letter out loud and stopped when I got to the paragraph in which this person asked for complete anonymity. We could tell people we received the gift from a person, just not name that person. And I understand why. This person has traveled through our path (not the infertility, but the adoption), has been blessed financially through their business and wants to help us become a family. The only reason this person told us who they are is because of the adoption connection, and wanted to impart some very wise words to us.

It will be easy to keep this person's identity a secret in the fact that it will honor their wishes, but part of me wants to yell at the top of my lungs that this person, whom I've loved dearly since before time has gotten us $5,000 closer to our goal, closer to our child. This person was led by God to give to us by what would seem to us a total fluke, an accident.

So thank you anonymous, thank you for pushing us closer to our dream. Our child will always know of your generosity, of your selfless act and we will never forget this.


wanttobeamom said...

Thank you for sharing a beautiful story of hope! I feel all warm and fuzzy now and I am very excited for you!

LifeHopes said...

What an amazing testament to the awesome power of financial generosity.

I pray that someday I too will have the privilege of blessing someone in this way.

allyouwhohope said...

What a beautiful gesture by "anonymous"! Don't things like that make it clear that you are on the right path?

I, too, received a gift of a couple thousand dollars, not for adoption, but for a project I was working on and the person also wanted to remain anonymous. It also came in the mail and I also had a feeling what it was going to be. I had never had anything like that happened and it was just surreal. It's nice to know there are so many truly good people out there!

Bri said...

Hi! I 've just started reading your blog. I don't want to take away from your friends' generosity, but the gift says so much about YOU! What an honor to have someone believe so much in what they are doing that they cannot help to do everthing they can for you! It clearly confirms what your blog already illustrates about you. Congrats and God Bless!

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